For those of you wishing for a very Cloudy Rough Seas Extremely Turbulent blog post, I thought I would sneak in a quick one.
A new person commenting on roughseas in fact.
On my International Women’s Day post. Because ya know, it’s all about Hollywood.
I left a rather civilised reply over there, but on here, I think I should be more honest.
Here is the said comment, for anyone who hasn’t read it on roughseas, as it was a later one in the scheme of things.
“You sound so terribly sad. Thank God, we are not all alike. There are many poor women who are happy, and don’t want to be “equal.” That’s such a broad word. I’ve been rich and poor, and I’m happy not to have so much, as I think what I have is just enough. I’ve been married three times, and miss the good parts, but life is easier alone. I’m sorry your generation is so mixed up. And, people’s ideas of “success,” is really varied. Unfortunately, TV and the media, especially Hollywood has made American women into ridiculous beings who want to be men and can’t stand it, yet do not get a sex change. No wonder our men go elsewhere.”
Here, for once, is what I considered to be my polite reply, to which I have not yet had a response, but hey, I guess she is busy on FaceBook posting pictures of her Bichon Frisé.
Thanks for your comment JoAnne.
• I’m not sure whether you are referring to Melody or me, but yes, I am certainly sad on behalf of the many women in the world who have an extremely difficult life.
• If you have backread my blog(s), you will have noticed that there is a common theme of lack of consumerism and glossy consumption with which many of my readers agree. That hardly equates to being poor and struggling to survive in a developing country.
• If you clicked on the link to last year’s IWD, I focused on women who were illiterate, poor, suffered domestic violence at home, and rape as a result of civil wars. I also mentioned that women are not achieving anywhere near the same levels as men in powerful positions in western societies. Whichever way you look, there is no equality.
• I can’t comment about being married so many times, as I am still on my first marriage after 28 years, so I’ll take your word for life being easier alone.
• Nor can I comment on my generation being mixed up. Most of the people I write to and read about on the internet are not a dissimilar age. We’re in our fifties and were born in the fifties. Where does that put you?
• I’m really not sure what television, the media, Hollywood and American women have to do with International Women’s Day? Perhaps you can tell me. I’d also like to know about women who want to be men and can’t get a sex change. That sounds like a gender issue to me rather than equality. The two are not the same.
• Bad luck about your men. Sorry to hear that.
Now, here is the real response. At what point in my post about International Womens’ Day did I mention:
c) American women?
That was a totally crass and imbecilic comment on a very serious issue. I gave my link back to the previous year’s post where I quoted statistics about why there is no equality at all.
Every other single person who commented had something of value to say.
Pulling down issues such as rape, murder, and violence to the level of Hollywood and, sic, ‘our men going elsewhere’ is beyond belief. Or maybe it isn’t.
It encapsulates the narrow-minded, shallow thinking that serves for our current so-called society.
Women shouldn’t ‘compete’ with men, or, we’ll scare them off? Really?
That would be so right, that men don’t even comment on my blogs (me being an exceptionally obnoxious woman). Oh wait, they do. And, even worse, I have been known to disagree with them. Lawd have mercy on me for my bad ways.
To be serious, International Women’s Day seems to have become a gimmick which is a genuine shame on humanity. My post on roughseas reflected my frustration (and was shared by commenters) and the link to my previous post, from the year before, shared some alarming and horrific statistics.
I can’t think of a better description (although I loathe it) than dumbing down, and to drag in Hollywood and glamour and losing men, is just totally missing the point when women are being murdered, raped and attacked every day of their lives.
I looked up the ID of my new commenter, as you do. No blog but a FaceBook profile. Ah yes, a Texican. With a – bought – Bichon Frisé. Feel the hackles rising here on the cloudy roughseas?
Likes on FB of the new person? The National Pro-Life. (That means anti-abortion by the way). God Bless You. Conservative.
At which point I wondered how the hell she found my blog.
But wait, what else do we have? Well, apparently we love the new homophobic racist Argentinian pope. Hurrah for Francis 1. Who doesn’t approve of gays or the Falklands. Or anything really as he is a staunch jesuit. Bring back the Auto da Fé.
What else does my new commenter support? Senator Paul Rand, or is that Rand Paul (who knows really) who has proposed the life at conception act.
So good when men tell you what to do with your own body based on some totally vacuous religious crap.
I really wanted to tell this woman to fuck off, because she was not getting the plot. But I did nice. Or so I thought.
I was even nice about the fact she had three marriages (OK I did snigger at that one), but I really wondered what my generational problems were?
Getting on, making some money, stashing away a bit of education, and later taking time to think and care about other people and animals (not necessarily pedigree Bichon Frisé) has been my life. The only time I interfere in someone else’s life is to give them money, ie to homeless people, or to animal charities.
So please, JoAnne, Francis 1 and Rand Paul, take your crazy ideas about abortion and anti-gays right out of it. Some of us would like to live our lives without your interference.
And back to the original point, just sort out all the rape, murder, domestic violence, poverty, lack of education, oh wait – women are just around to bear children, yes?
What do I care? Woman with no kids, one marriage and no pedigree dogs. Who would want to be me?