There are lots of good things about the internet. Mostly, in my opinion, that includes sharing information for free.
But there are an awful lot of bad things too. Truth is, I’m not sure what value it has added to my life. I managed well enough before.
Fax, ‘phone, mail order worked fine.
But, let alone the abhorrent, pornographic, and violent garbage that is on the internet, there are also your average arguments.
I’m more than qualified to speak about this as I have argued with the whole world on the internet.
On forums, via Facebook, pms, and emails. Not on blogs as far as I can recall because I am a supreme dictator on my blogs and censor anything that I think is rubbish. Such power.
One of my – natch – ex-friends, described Facebook as the Work of the Devil. In a way she was right. But the truth is, it’s not the (social – or anti-social) network site – whether FB or a forum – that is the problem, it’s the online intimacy that develops between people who have never met. And may never meet. When there is a mix of dynamics where some meet and others don’t, the situation gets even more complicated.
The reason I started this post was because I was saddened to read something on a FB wall. It was on the wall of one my friends (who I didn’t meet) who died this year. Won’t take a genius to work out who that was. I never fell out with her (!) and I respected her courage and strength. Wow! Was she tough.
There was a disagreement on that person’s wall about posts after her death. And, all the points had merit, I didn’t disagree with them. The bizarre thing about FB is that when someone has died, people go back to their wall and post, and say ‘We miss you.’ Or maybe they just go back to read, because you don’t, or can’t, just wipe out a lifetime with a flick of a key. Maybe people want to just look back and remember. Who knows? It’s like a photo album, or reading through old letters or whatever.
To me, those pages should remain for what people want to say on there, if anything. People may want to leave messages to family, friends, and make commemorative posts. I have another friend who died this year, who I did meet. Her FB page is a peaceful place to visit. And that, to me, is how FB pages for our former friends should be.
If we want to spat about stuff on FB, there are other places to take it. Or even a link, but I really think it would be nice to leave the pages of all of our former friends as that peaceful place.
On FB, we all have our own walls, our own groups where we can share our hurt feelings. They are the best places to vent. Or maybe on our blogs.
And then, we take them down. Or at least I do. When someone has read my really fed up rant of the day, I can take it down and move on. Because taking it down shows you have put it behind you. To you, and to everyone else.
Arguing over the internet.
You see, sometimes we don’t need to do it. I will share my golden PR rule for the zilliionth time, the one I often forget. Never argue with the stuff that doesn’t merit it.
Because, arguing, gives that crap point credence. Leave it alone. There are different ways – and different places – to get your message across.
Hey – I always follow my own rules …..